Let’s get this out of the way: I’m an introvert. Actually, let’s make that an awkward introvert.
By introvert, I mean someone who recharges by being alone, finds large social situations draining, and would rather deep-dive into one meaningful conversation than make small talk with 20 different people. It doesn’t mean I dislike people — it just means my energy works a little differently.
Now, take that personality type and drop it right into the middle of the horse show world — a place full of bustling barns, crowded warm-up rings, and never-ending social media updates. You can probably imagine the internal “eep” that happens.
The Introvert’s Struggle at Horse Shows
Horse shows are basically the Olympics of social stamina. You’re surrounded by:
- People chatting ringside
- Trainers juggling multiple students
- People who want to ask about your horse
- And so much more!
And if you’re an introvert, every one of those interactions takes a little energy out of your social battery.
Warm-up arenas? They’re like chaos with a side of adrenaline. Barn aisles? Endless opportunities for quick (and sometimes awkward) exchanges. And don’t get me started on post-class congratulations — I love that people are being kind, but it can feel overwhelming to process it all in the moment. I’m also absolutely awful at saying congratulations! I always feel unbelievably awkward, whether it’s out loud or in a personal text.
Social Media: The Digital Warm-Up Ring
You’d think social media would be easier for introverts. Spoiler: it’s not. Posting updates, sharing wins (or losses), and engaging with endless streams of content can feel like a second horse show happening right on your phone. And while it’s amazing to stay connected, there’s this pressure to always be “on” — to post the perfect caption, respond quickly, and join every trending conversation.
For me, it often means wondering if something I posted offended someone, or if my wording was all wrong on a simple statement. Believe me, I’ve been attacked for saying my opinion more often than I care to admit!
Getting Involved Was the Hardest Part
When I first started, stepping into the horse show scene as an introvert felt a little like walking into a party where everyone already knew each other, and I wasn’t entirely sure I was invited. I wanted to volunteer, meet people, and learn, but striking up conversations with strangers? Terrifying. And you know what, it still is for me. Even now, I have moments where I need to take a breather and recharge before diving back in.
The Perpetual “Outside Looking In” Feeling
Here’s the part that’s hardest to admit: no matter how long I’ve been part of this world, I don’t always feel like I truly belong. Call it imposter syndrome, call it overthinking — it’s the quiet sense that maybe I’m not really part of the inner circle. Or even any circle at times.
It’s not about how people treat me (most have truly been lovely). It’s about how my brain works. I can win a ribbon, volunteer for hours, or post a well-received update online, and still feel like the kid peeking through the barn door at the “real” group inside.
The Upside of Being an Introvert at Shows
But here’s the thing: being an introvert has its strengths, too. I notice details others might miss. I’m great at listening. I build deep, lasting connections with the people I do click with, and I can focus on my horse and my ride without getting pulled too far into the noise.
Final Thought: There’s Room for Quiet Voices, Too
The horse show world thrives on variety: flashy extroverts, thoughtful introverts, and everyone in between. And while I may always feel a little like an outsider, I’ve learned that my quiet presence still adds value.
If you’re an introvert stepping into the arena (literally or figuratively), know this: you don’t have to be the loudest to belong. Sometimes, being exactly who you are — quietly passionate, observant, and steady — is your biggest strength.
And hey, at least your horse doesn’t care whether you mingle at the exhibitor party or not.
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